Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind
Addiction damages every area of our lives and so true recovery must involve repairing every area of our lives. We go about this total recovery by renewing our minds not only about drugs but about the way we think, feel and view every aspect of our lives. “Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” (Romans 12:2) CR is about full disclosure. We embrace being open and transparent about every area of our life in order to recover totally. Hebrews 4:13 “Everything is uncovered and laid bare”
(Col.1:13 – 17) CR is a bible based group. We have learned that God’s Word, the Bible – contains all the answers to our recovery and we would be wise to put it into practice. The Bible is our mirror that reflects who we really are ( James 1:21 – 25 )
Proverbs 27:17 As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.
Accountability is the humble acknowledgement that without the help of others we are not likely to get or stay sober. It is an agreement where we allow others to hold us to our commitment to recovery and all that is involved in keeping that commitment. It is also an agreement to love one another enough to hold each other to the words and commitments we make.
2 Corinthians 12:10 That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses. For when I am weak, then I am strong.
Truth In Love
( Ephesians 4:2,14, 19, 25) Truth is spoken here, in love! Be ready to give it and receive it. In our addiction, we may be accustomed to bending, omitting or ignoring the truth — lying to ourselves first, which clears the way to lie to everyone else. Being open, honest and upfront is a necessity! Sometimes, the truth hurts (Proverbs 25:15b, a gentle word can break a bone.) Yet, we can choose how the hurt will come – through the pain of truth ( damaging our pride) or of consequences (damaging our job, family, friends, even ourselves.) Both motivate us to change. However, if we want to build each other up and not tear each other down, we must speak sincerely, from the heart, in love. (Ephesians 4:29 ) Love never fails.
“For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are.”
John 11:35 “Jesus wept.”
We have found that the best way to help others is to put ourselves in their shoes and relate not only to the situations and temptations they are going through but also to the way of thinking that often accompanies such situations and temptations.
More wisdom comes from this position than from mere knowledge. Empathizing is also the best way for people to give advice and input while at the same time staying connected to the realities of our own weaknesses. It is an approach that safeguards us from becoming arrogant and preachy, which often hurts the speaker and hearer alike.
Willingness to Change
(Mt.23: 37- 38) ) If I am going to recover, totally, I must be willing to make some hard choices. I must accept my role in my usage of drugs/alcohol and not shift the blame. I willingly used and abused drugs/alcohol, at all costs. Now I must be ready to do whatever it takes to totally recover. No one can want my recovery more than me! ( Mt.26:41 ) If I am unwilling, anyone who attempts to help me will fight a futile battle. The only person that can make me change is me! ( Ps.51:12 ) If I am willing to do whatever it takes to recover with God’s help – I will recover! ( 2Co.8:12 )
The Eternal Fellowship
Matthew 18:18 Whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven
Recovery is about a sober judgment of our ourselves. It is a diligent, vigilant and ongoing examination of our heart, minds, attitudes and lives. The healthiest place for us is a lifelong environment where truth is at the forefront and among people who understand the struggle and who know us intimately. The Eternal Fellowship is a commitment to remain sober and to help others do the same by staying consistently in relationship with other like-minded individuals.
Hebrews 10:25 “Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another and all the more as you see the Day approaching.”
(Mk. 5:14 – 20) To keep it, we must give it away. There are others who want and need what we have ( 2 Kings 7:3-4, 8-9 ) It is selfish and unloving to keep our recovery to ourselves and fail to help others or share what God has done in our lives. Outreach is fueled by love and gratitude! ( Mark 5:18:20 ) We can best serve our communities by having recovery groups open to the public in public! Walk-ins are welcome! If you need Total Recovery, you only need to be on time and be willing to abide by the group Rules.